It is a "must add" to With Loss and Grief a resource list on grief and sudden loss. Newsom Bufford is a licensed clinical social Charlie Walton's When There Are No Words is a worker at Vanderbilt University Medical Center and very clear, concise, and practical treatment of the a therapist with the Counseling Center at Woodmont subject of grief and loss.
Yancey was 19 , and Don's best friend, Bryan 19 , Walton asked several times to respond to the theme of suf- decided to use his gift of writing to share what he fering after the events of September He decided has learned along his journey of grief and loss.
He to remain silent and instead reached an agreement walks the reader through many topics, ideas, or with Zondervan Press to republish this book in a thoughts a person dealing with loss is likely to expe- format that allowed it to be half the original price rience.
Walton is very clear that each person experi- Western history who have dealt with the problem ences grief and loss in a different way. Each person of suffering, as well as the issues it raises. Yet the needs to find what is "right" or what works. His main contribution through- and for any person who has experienced loss in his out his writing is that he stays tuned to the personal or her own life.
It is a short pages full of useful and the pastoral. In fact, the book is written to the and practical information. It is one of the most help- average reader rather than to the minister or theo-. One of Yancey's unique contributions to the dis- Hospice Foundation of America, , pages. Living With Grief Who We Are, How We Grieve is He goes into great detail describing the benefit of a collection of essays that were originally oral pre- pain to the human person and what happens when scntations given at the National Bereavement one is unable to feel pain.
He then makes an impor- Teleconference hosted by the Hospice Foundation tant distinction between pain and suffering. The audience was made up of hospice Yancey deals with most of the relevant biblical workers-doctors, nurses, social workers, coun- passages, especially Job, and concludes, "Questions selors, clergy, and other related professionals.
The about cause lie within God's domain; we cannot editor, Kenneth J. Doka, a well-respected researcher expect to understand those answers Instead, and author on the subjects of death, dying, and response is our assignment. The various psalmists wrestling with God an excellent overview of the prevailing thoughts on as covenant partner could fruitfully be discussed as supporting an individual through the grief process.
When we do think of issues related to of people who have greatly suffered in a variety of grief, it is easiest to think of those who are most like circumstances. The people he mentions, some well us, those with whom we identify and with whom known and some unknown, provide honest accounts we would grieve similarly. At first glance, it may of people making faithful responses to suffering. On further reflection, most people wouldacknowl- "Today, ifI had to answer the question 'Where is edge the impact that culture, ethnicity, gender, and God when it hurts?
The true strength ity is the acknowledgement that the theoretical basis of Yancey's book may not be primarily for those for dealing with issues of death has shifted. While hurting, but for those who seek to provide comfort respecting the landmark work of Elizabeth Kubler- to those who hurt in the name of the one who suf- Ross, the writer reminds us that coping with loss is fered for us and who now suffers with us.
Rather, it is a process that will be as individual as those who enter into it. In any collection of essays, there are clearly some that are weaker and some that stand out in their clarity of thought, respect for the audience, and understanding of the issue. In this collection, some are best read with the image in mind of a dedicated. While reading other essays, it is Crabb reassures us that God is present and active easy to imagine a gifted writer who is not able to in our suffering, but rarely, if ever, where or how convey passion or care.
There are still others that we prefer. Clearly and early on, Crabb states the are well researched, well written and that evidently assumptions that help usin our search for meaning. This is God's greatest and work. While the book features variations in writing constant longing. But the good that God gives is for style, it has a consistency of message. The essayists our transformation and often not the good we ini- represent a variety of ethnic, religious, and cultural tially desire.
Here is the rub within our suffering. The importance of listening and making no actually experience God. But we really don't believe assumptions about the cultural variations in grieving this at the deepest level, so we invest our passion is stated repeatedly and emphatically. We then yearn for God with the deepest pas- a Jewish neighbor who has recently died, what is sion; Thus our shattered dreams are never random appropriate behavior at the funeral of an African- because they are a chapter in a larger story.
God American work associate, or how one acknowledges works through the pain of shattered dreams to our the loss of a person whose life-long same-gender higher dream for God and the joy of finding God. It also encour- ity e. John of the Cross and ages us to ask the sensitive questions that will make spiritual author Thomas Merton , Crabb in so many us better caretakers in times of grief.
Pauls works as a licensed clinical social worker Christ the author of our highest dream. This is the at a family mental health agency and in private prac- book's most helpful point-one that is often diffi- tice in Stamford, Connecticut. Redemptive suffering is the God's Unexpected Pathway to Joy struggle to consent to our own de-centering and the By Larry Crabb openness to a re-centering in Christ.
Colorado Springs: Waterbrook Press, Blood is now pounding in my head. What happened? Even as I was drifting into dreamland, my body was loyally working to protect me. Though my conscious brain had already shut down, my reflex system had not.
When my head nodded forward, two small sacs in my inner ear, filled with fluid and lined with ultrasensitive hairs, detected an alarming shift in my equilibrium.
Just at the last moment, as my head was about to crash downward to the armrest, the inner ear sounded an all-points-alert. Suddenly my arms jerked out, my head shot upward, and my whole torso twitched in a spasm. And all these complex maneuvers took place while I was drifting off to sleep. The mechanism of pain in the human body operates much like the warning system I experienced in Orchestra Hall. Pain sensors loudly alert my body to danger — It hurts! Sometimes the reaction occurs at an involuntary level.
For example, when I go to the doctor for a checkup and he taps my knee with a rubber hammer, my leg straightens violently. My body rushes to compensate, lest I stumble and experience a greater pain. Yet despite the obvious protective value of these millions of warning sensors, the pain network is easily the most unappreciated bodily system.
It attracts mostly abuse and bad feelings. I have never read a poem extolling the virtues of pain, nor seen a statue erected in its honor, nor heard a hymn dedicated to it. Pain is usually defined as unpleasantness. Really, he should have worked a little harder to devise a better way for us to cope with danger. I used to feel that way exactly. Now, however, I am convinced that pain gets a bad press.
Perhaps we should see poems, statues, and hymns to pain. Why has my attitude changed? Because up close, under a microscope, the pain network is seen in an entirely different light. My discussion of pain, then, must begin with a look at the human body. Why do I need pain? When I hurt, what is my body telling me?
I begin here, with the closeup view, because that perspective is the one most often overlooked by people fumbling with the question Where is God when it hurts? I have read scores of philosophical and theological books on the problem of pain, but at best these give token acknowledgment to the fact that pain may serve some useful biological purpose.
The pain network deserves far more than token acknowledgment. It bears the mark of creative genius. Actually, the body does not seem to have any dedicated pain cells, for the sensation of pain ties in with an elaborate network of sensors that also report information about pressure, touch, heat, and cold. Scientists blindfold their research subjects usually hapless medical students and measure their skin sensitivity. For example, how much pressure must be applied before a blindfolded person becomes aware of an object touching his skin?
The scale, called the absolute threshold of touch, is measured in grams per square millimeter of skin surface , and this is what researchers have discovered:. Thus the skin, a single organ, displays a very wide range of sensitivity to pressure. We use our tongues for such intricate acts as forming words and picking food particles from between our teeth.
We use our fingers for playing the guitar, writing with a felt-tip pen, and the caresses of love. These areas of the skin require a fine-tuned sensitivity. But less critical areas hardly need such sensitivity: we would tire very quickly indeed if our brains had to listen to such dainty pressure reports from the foot, which faces a daily rigor of stomping, squeezing, and supporting weight. Thus, while fingers and tongue can detect a feather touch, other parts of the body need a good sound slap before they report unusual activity to the brain.
These measurements of threshold barely scratch the surface of the marvels of the pain network. For example, sensitivity to pressure varies depending on context. Open navigation menu.
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Marks of a Designer Yet despite the obvious protective value of these millions of warning sensors, the pain network is easily the most unappreciated bodily system. The scale, called the absolute threshold of touch, is measured in grams per square millimeter of skin surface , and this is what researchers have discovered: Thus the skin, a single organ, displays a very wide range of sensitivity to pressure.
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Where was God, and why was I facing the things that I faced at that time. This book didn't provide the answers, but it assured me that God knew my circumstances and loved me, and nothing came my way that was out of His control. He of whom it is written that he was "deeply distressed and troubled overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death" Markunderstands the complexities of human psyche to a degree that is altogether sublime. But God can intervene in human tragedies, and display His glory and power.
I had often heard of the book, and seen it referenced in other works, but didn't get to reading it until this one came into my hands.
Each one of these could be a book of its own. However, he is so determined to keep God from being a cause of suffering in any way that he drifts toward deism theologically. Instead, in Luke 13, when He was asked about two local catastrophes, a political situation in which the Roman army killed some members of a religious minority, and a tower under construction that fell on the workers. By: Philip Yancey Length: 11 hrs and 15 mins Unabridged 4. The Lord has given us joy, love, happiness, and goodness.
Even the strongest believers may begin to wonder where God is when they need him most or why he doesn't seem to care. In this book Philip Yancey inspires those for whom life hurts to look beyond their immediate suffering and to understand that God is offering.
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